My son just dropped me a bomb

My youngest son has dropped me a bomb this aternoon. He called to tell me that he is quiting medical school. He said the course is too tough and he cannot take it anymore. He is giving up.

Actually I should have expected this from him, cos he has been failing his medical exams since he studied at the University in Ireland. I was aware that he had to reseat for a few papers at every semester, but I was convinced he could do it. The reason being he was a straight "A" student all the way since day one in school. He also performed so well even in Banting where he took his International Buchalureate ,which is recognised world wide. He was among the top scorer then.

But I cannot understand why his focus level has dropped drastically when he went overseas. I have visited the university and seen the place and it is such a fantastic place to study with very little distraction. The city is small and quiet and very conducive to study.

I know my son is a gamer but all my other children played computer games too. All of them had been exposed to computers when they were very young, but they are all doing all right now. They know their limits and managed their time well.

I think I am partly to be blamed. I gave in too much to him. I pampered and sheltered him too much and fulfilled all his requirements and request and never denying anything. He grew up overly pampered. Well, he being my youngest child. I thought I was playing the role of father and mother at the same time since his father died when he was only twelve.

Now he cannot get out of his gaming problem. He is addicted to it and just had to forgo his studies. I felt so bad for him and I do not know how to help him. Please somebody out there....help me!!!!

He once had a girl friend but had broken off. Now he told me he is gay???? He do not like girls anymore and told me that I am his only "girl". I am scared. Please help me.